Nearly everyone knows at least one person who is divorced or is currently going through the process, but this doesn’t make it any easier if and when it happens to you. Learning how to cope with the challenges of ending your marriage is important to your mental health, your children’s adjustment and how well you are able to move forward with your life.
- Remember that this is temporary.
Right now your world is being turned upside down, and it’s easy to get lost in the swirl of emotions, court appearances, and cycle of blaming. Take a step back — and a deep breath — and remember that while your divorce may be permanent, the process is temporary. It may take a few weeks, months or even years, but eventually, you will be in a better place.
- Focus on the children.
Putting your energy into making sure your kids are taken care of and coping as best as possible with the divorce can give you something else to focus on other than your ex or your own negative emotions. Divorce is very difficult for children, particularly if there are ongoing custody issues, and it’s important to spend plenty of one-on-one time with them during this process.
- Have someone to vent to.
Divorce is a very difficult process, and it’s normal to feel anger, sadness, and grief — sometimes within just a few minutes of each other. Whether it’s a trusted friend, family member or professional, having someone to talk to can help you get your feelings out in a healthy manner so you can focus on positive interactions with your ex and a smooth transition for the children.
Source: Slate, “Seven ways to get through a divorce when you have small children,” Lara Bazelon, accessed Feb. 25, 2016
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