The holidays are an exciting time for young and old alike as the magic of the season bring the year to an end. This is usually a time for family traditions and seasonal get-togethers, but if you and your ex-are divorced, it can make figuring out how to handle the holidays with children challenging. Children can often feel caught between their parents during this time, but taking a few simple steps can help you navigate co-parenting the holidays with ease.
Almost all couples who are divorced with children have some type of formal schedule for parenting time. This is usually done to ensure the children get enough access to both parents, and it also helps decrease communication issues and conflict between the parents as well.
However, the holidays are a time when you may want to be more flexible if your situation allows for it. If you are on good terms with your ex, it might make sense to talk about how you want to handle the holidays and any special gatherings and make a parenting schedule that best fits that plan. As always, try to put this in writing for easy reference for both sides.
It’s also important to remember that the focus should continue to remain on the children. If you want your children to accompany you to your employer’s annual Christmas party but they’d rather go pick out a tree with your ex, it might be best to let the children pick. It’s important during this season to always pause and honestly evaluate your decisions to ensure they are in the best interests of the children.
Source: The Huffington Post Canada, “3 Tips For Creating Joyful Holidays As Co-Parents,” Anna Giannone, accessed Nov. 30, 2015
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