Regardless of how amicable a divorce is, most British Columbia parents will find it tough to navigate co-parenting without difficulties. Divorced parents may keep in mind that they will be ex-spouses once the divorce and child custody issues are decided, but they will never be ex-parents. Children will likely need more proof of love and support of both parents after a divorce, even if only to reassure them that they did not bring about the divorce.
Except in circumstances of domestic violence or abuse, the continued relationships between children and parents will play important roles in their abilities to develop into well-adjusted adults. In many cases, it will also affect the way children treat their families when they grow up. This may all be easier said than done because the frustrations and problems that led to the divorce do not just disappear when the divorce is final.
Co-parenting may be more challenging after divorce because it is not uncommon for feelings of vengeance or reprisal to sneak up and take over from time to time. It may also be a challenge to accept that the children will spend time with an ex and his or her new love. The trick may be to focus on the children rather than on what happened in the past and even what the spouse does now. Taking care of the stability and security of the children may help to keep things on an even keel.
If co-parenting and child custody rights become more problematic, a consultation with an experienced British Columbia family law lawyer, like Laughlin Family Attorneys may be in order. Such professionals are not only available for litigation — they can also provide valuable advice and guidance. A lawyer could also arrange the services of a qualified family law mediator to facilitate communication and compromise between divorced parents to reach parenting agreements that will be in the best interests of their children.
Source: helpguide.org, “Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents“, Accessed on April 27, 2017
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